After the Affair

15.The Motivational Triad

Happy New Year! Let's make 2023 the turning point in your recovery.
 
Today's episode is all about the Motivational Triad. This is the human need to;
 
- Seek pleasure
- Avoid pain
- Expend the least energy
 
This shows up in our lives daily and it makes perfect sense from an evolutionary perspective, but in today's world where food and material items are in abundance ... it often leads us to behave in ways that no longer serve us.
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14. Put it to Work

Come on, admit it. We are all guilty for consuming a great piece of advice, reading and inspirational quote in a magazine or learning that new technique on a webinar but, how often do you actively put that new found knowledge into practice.
 
I know from experience how easy it is to passively consume information, but then realise that nothing is changing for me because I haven't implemented any of it! 
This week is all about reflecting back on some of the key takeaways from the first 13 episodes.
Choose one episode or lesson, and intentionally put it into practice before the end of 2022. Let's set you and your relationships up for 2023 like it's had a kick up the "£$*!Make the most of this holiday period spend as much time with the people most important to you in your lives.
 
You've got this!
 
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13. Know Your Boundaries

What boundaries do you have in your relationships? Have you ever intentionally set a boundary? What is expected of other people who infringe on your emotional boundaries?Find out the answers to these questions and many more in today's episode.
 
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12. The Rulebook

Following on from last weeks episode I explore the list of rules that we have for our partners. How they are something that we don't even notice yet they dictate our expectations and ultimately our feelings if left unchecked.In addition, to sign up for the upcoming Heal for Holidays workshop which will be held on Tuesday 13th December 2022 at 9am CT and 3pm UK time, click >>here!

11. Rose Tinted Glassed or Not

We all see the world through a different lens. Sometimes it's easy to use the analogy of Rose-Tinted Glasses where you only see the positives, this would be great but is often not always the case!
 
This episode, along with next week's episode will look at the lists we have in our mind that act like a filter ... not dissimilar to Rose-Tinted Glasses. Enjoy!
 
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10. When Things Seemed Fine

For episode 10, we're doing something a little different. 
 
Whatever it is that you are going through, whatever stage of recovery you are at, there is always someone else out there who is experiencing something similar. Simply becoming aware of this, might just make you feel a little less alone on this journey.
 
Today I'm having a very open conversation with Mike who experienced infidelity back in 2006.
 
If you would like to share your story on a future episode, then send me an email with a brief summary of your situation and we can talk.
 
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9. Rebuild Trust

Such a common question after infidelity, how do I rebuild trust? How can I ever trust again?I could talk about this subject for hours but I've kept it to around 20 minutes so it will be manageable and accessible to all.
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8. Choosing to Stay

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Click above to join us on Sunday 13th November at 12pm central time/6pm UK time. If you can't make the live event, still register and you'll get access to the recording. Attend as the betrayed spouse, the wayward spouse or as a couple.
This week I am answering questions from men who have chosen to stay after discovery of the affair.Some of the issues discussed are:- Triggers
- Intrusive thoughts
- Choosing thoughts and seeking evidence
- Knowing that you are always worthy
 
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7. Don’t Mention the ’F’ Word

Feelings! It's all about feelings. 
 
Feelings/emotions are the fuel for everything we do. In this episode you'll learn what feelings are, why they matter and most importantly... what to do with them!This episode is relevant to anyone with a brain! Not just those who have been through infidelity.
 
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6. Unexpected Guilt

When betrayal happens, it's common to assume that guilt is only experienced on the side of the unfaithful partner. Further into the healing process however and sometimes a certain set of circumstances can align and cause the betrayed to have similar feelings, but for different reasons.
 
Find out more in this episode!
 
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