After the Affair
The ‘After the affair’ podcast with Luke Shillings is here to help you process, decide, and move forward on purpose following infidelity. Let’s explore what’s required to rebuild trust not only in yourself, but also with others. Whether you stay or leave, I can help! and no matter what your story, there will be something here for you.
Episodes
Wednesday Aug 23, 2023
Wednesday Aug 23, 2023
In this episode of "After the Affair," host I am joined by guest Faust Ruggiero to discuss the importance of accountability and personal growth after a breakup.
We delve into the complexities of relationships, infidelity, and the impact on our sense of identity. Join us as we explore practical strategies for moving forward and finding internal strength to create a fulfilling and empowered life.
Faust A. Ruggiero’s professional career spans almost 40 years, and is diversified and compelling, as it has consistently established new and exciting cutting-edge counseling programs in its pursuit of professional excellence and personal life enhancement. He is a published research author, clinical trainer, and a therapist who has worked in settings that have included clinics for deaf children, prisons, nursing homes, substance abuse centers, inpatient facilities, major corporations, both national and international, and as the President of the Community Psychological Center in Bangor, Pennsylvania. In that capacity, he developed the Process Way of Life counseling program, and has developed it into a formal text presented in the Fix Yourself Handbook.In the summer of 2016, Mr. Ruggiero decided to develop the Process Life Program into a text that can be published, and would help people in need address the difficult situations that are affecting their lives. The Fix Yourself Handbook was completed in December of 2019. On February 1st, 2020, The Fix Yourself Handbook received the Silver Award from The Nonfiction Authors Association. On May 2, 2020, it received the Gold Award from Literary Titan. On September 1st, 2020, it received the Bronze Award from Reader's Favorite. He has appeared on television and radio shows, and podcasts discussing the Process Way of Life presented in The Fix Yourself Handbook both nationally and internationally. His radio show "Fix It With Faust" debuted in June of 2021, and The Fix Yourself Handbook II; The Journey Continues is currently in development.
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Wednesday Aug 16, 2023
Wednesday Aug 16, 2023
In this episode, I try to get a better understanding of those who cheat and how it affects the healing process after betrayal. Join me Luke Shillings as I uncover the emotions, justifications, and pain behind acts of infidelity. I dive into the mindset of the cheater, exploring the grey areas that often go overlooked. Remember, understanding does not equate to condoning, but it opens the door to authentic conversation, reconciliation, or closure. So, let's go beyond the surface and uncover the multidimensionality of those who have been betrayed and the powerful role empathy plays in their journey towards growth and change. Listen in for an episode that challenges our preconceptions and offers a path towards healing. Welcome to "After the Affair."
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Wednesday Aug 09, 2023
Wednesday Aug 09, 2023
In this episode of After the Affair, join me Luke Shillings as I welcome divorce and custody attorney Heather O'Connor to share her personal journey and professional expertise.
Heather discusses the challenges and emotional complexities of divorce, highlighting the importance of seeking guidance and support during this difficult process. She shares personal experiences, provides practical advice, and encourages listeners to prioritize their own happiness and well-being.
Heather's inspiring story of resilience and determination will leave you feeling empowered and ready to navigate the aftermath of an affair. Tune in to gain valuable insights and tools for moving forward in your own journey of healing and growth.
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Wednesday Aug 02, 2023
Wednesday Aug 02, 2023
Stuck with the stench of your ex's lover?
In this controversial episode of 'After the Affair,' I dive into the dirty laundry and explore how to cleanse your life of the lingering presence of the affair partner.
Join me, Luke Shillings, as I share my story, tools and strategies to air out the fallout and reclaim your space, your peace, and your life.
Let's go!
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Wednesday Jul 26, 2023
Wednesday Jul 26, 2023
In this episode of After the Affair, I'm joined by Jennifer Jehl. Jenn helps men create next-level confidence by discovering their deepest selves in order to live with freedom & fulfilment.
She addresses the self-blame that many men experience after an affair. We speak about the impact of significant life changes on their sense of identity as husbands, family men, and fathers.
Jenn shares her insights on the need for men to be physically strong and healthy while emphasizing the importance of self-control and emotional intelligence. She highlights the detrimental effects of societal pressure and the lack of strong male role models in children's lives.
We discuss the imbalance in personal lives that successful men often face and the importance of discovering a purpose and creating a new vision for life.
She shares her journey of overcoming a toxic relationship, and how it led her to self-discovery and helping others. We also explore the idea of being dangerous but controlled and discuss the difficulties in defining this concept without proper guidance.
Join us on this thought-provoking episode as we dive into the complexities of masculinity, emotional intelligence, and finding purpose after betrayal on After the Affair.
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Wednesday Jul 19, 2023
Wednesday Jul 19, 2023
In this week's episode, I look into the intricate ways people process emotions, influenced by their unique experiences, upbringing, and societal expectations. Emphasizing the common patterns of emotional avoidance and the search for external validation, I dissect these methods, illustrating how they prevent genuine emotional processing and prevent us from getting what we want.
Considering some of my own experiences, such as bankruptcy, divorce, and health crises, to underscore the importance of solitude in the self-healing process. Solitude fosters a safe environment for self-reflection, enabling us to face difficult emotions, understand our desires and fears, and initiate meaningful internal dialogue.
Embrace the transformative power of solitude. No matter the adversity you face, remember, you are not alone. Stay strong, lean into solitude, and keep moving forward towards healing and self-discovery.
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Wednesday Jul 12, 2023
Wednesday Jul 12, 2023
In this episode, I have the pleasure of speaking with Furkhan Dandia. Furkhan is a therapist, author, speaker and coach.
After going through adversity and working in the corporate world as an Engineer for many years, Furkhan decided to pivot and pursue a Master's in Psychology. He is passionate about making a difference in people’s lives and working with them to find their purpose.
Going through a divorce made him realise how much shame there is for men around failure. That further motivated him to help other men. After seeing the life-changing benefits of therapy, Furkhan decided to become a therapist. In addition to becoming a therapist, he has also released a book, Pursuit Of Self-Love: 30 Uplifting Messages and Reflections.
We discuss the ability to pivot following significant life events such as infidelity. The difficulties in expressing emotions, especially for men. Why do we fail to do the things we tell ourselves we 'should' do and the reason the 'plateau of latent potential' stop so many of us in our tracks.
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Wednesday Jul 05, 2023
Wednesday Jul 05, 2023
In the latest episode of "The After the Affair", join me as I navigate the treacherous waters of sudden change post-infidelity.
This change can leave us feeling disoriented and desperate for control, but what if we changed our perspective? What if we chose to view this alteration not as a disastrous upheaval but as a challenging opportunity for personal growth and self-discovery? As I venture into these deep waters, I’ll discuss the importance of reframing mindset, and learning to accept change, rather than resisting it.
Delve deeper into this topic with me as together we can explore how fighting change can only prolong the pain and delay the healing process.
I’ll discuss and uncover various strategies to cope with this major shift in your personal life. From mindfulness to prioritizing self-care and reaching out to your support networks, learn practical and effective techniques to accept and embrace change. Listen in to discover how you can convert life's unexpected detours into transformative paths towards growth and recovery.
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Wednesday Jun 28, 2023
Wednesday Jun 28, 2023
When we see things that aren't right in our relationships and have no idea how to fix them ... the easiest thing to do is look around and see what everyone else is doing.
We spend most of our lives trying to figure stuff out by comparison. The problem with this is, 'comparison is the thief of joy'. We are left feeling like we aren't good enough, or our partners aren't good enough. If only they would change and everything would be ok!
Join me today in a fascinating conversation with Master Certified Coach Jen Frey as we talk about confidence, worthiness, shame, the Reticular Activating System and the problem of looking externally to solve our relationship problems.
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Wednesday Jun 21, 2023
Wednesday Jun 21, 2023
In the aftermath of an affair, the path to healing is often paved with self-reflection and inner exploration. Join me as I delve into the depths of what I call "EmpathMe", a concept that shines a light on the darker side of self-empathy. In this podcast episode, I explore the complexities of navigating the aftermath of betrayal, revealing the challenges and breakthroughs that come with self-understanding.
I uncover the intricacies of "EmpathMe" and its role in post-affair healing. Join me on this journey of self-awareness, as we confront the uncomfortable truths.
If you're ready to confront your inner turmoil, find solace in vulnerability, and embark on a profound healing journey after betrayal, this podcast is for you. Tune in to "Unveiling EmpathMe" and discover the transformative potential that lies within the dark corners of self-empathy.
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